You lost more than trust. You lost the life you thought you had.
If you are living with trauma caused by betrayal, everything feels uncertain right now. Who to trust, what was real, whether healing is even possible. You do not have to figure it out alone.
A Message for Betrayed Partners
Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT
CEO and Co-Founder of Helping Couples Heal
THE PROBLEM
Nothing feels safe since you found out.
If your partner betrayed you, what you are carrying right now is more than sadness or anger. It is confusion that never lets up, safety that disappeared in an instant, and the feeling that no one around you truly understands.
- Intrusive thoughts that follow you through the day and wake you up at night
- Trickle truth that keeps pulling the ground out from under you
- Not knowing what was real and what was a lie
- Therapy or professional help that did not address the complexity of what actually happened to you—both the sexual betrayal as well as the patterns of abuse that accompanied the acting out
What you are experiencing has a name. It is betrayal trauma.
And it is not something you caused, and it is not something you can heal by trying harder.
what's possible
You can get out of this pain.
Healing does not mean pretending it did not happen. It means the fog clears, the intrusive thoughts lose their grip, and you start to trust yourself again.
That does not happen by trying harder. It happens when you get the right support from people who understand betrayal trauma and integrity abuse.
Many well-intentioned therapists and coaches are not equipped to help. Betrayal trauma requires specialized care from clinicians and coaches with extensive training and experience.
This is what Helping Couples Heal is built for.
Every program is grounded in attachment science and informed by the emotional and integrity abuse patterns that often accompany infidelity and betrayal. Your pain is the starting point. You are believed without having to prove what happened. And you get a clear path forward, not another person telling you to just let it go.
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Betrayed Partners Coaching Group
The place most partners start when they need real support from people who understand betrayal trauma recovery.
This weekly group is for betrayed partners at any stage. You get consistent guidance, connection with others who understand, and tools to start moving through the pain.
- Weekly sessions with a trained coach who specializes in betrayal trauma
- A small group of partners who understand exactly what you are going through
- Practical tools for managing triggers, intrusive thoughts, and emotional overwhelm
- No pressure to forgive, perform, or pretend you are fine
Weekly Ongoing Sessions
Sundays, 8:30-10:00 a.m. PST or
Tuesdays, 3:30-5:00 p.m. PST
$445/month
Limited to 8 individuals per group
“Finding Helping Couples Heal and joining a weekly group so early on my journey has helped me more than I could ever express. The relationships I have built with these amazing, compassionate women is something I will cherish and be forever thankful for!”
–Past Participant, Betrayed Partners Coaching Group
More Ways to Heal
The Coaching Group is the strongest starting point for most partners. The following programs support different stages of the healing journey.
Accidentally Brave: Partners & Legal Impact Group
A weekly coaching group for women navigating the legal dimensions of betrayal. Led by Maddie Corman, award-winning creator of the HBO film Accidentally Brave.
Best for: Women dealing with legal fallout from betrayal.
50+ Partners Group
A weekly coaching group for betrayed partners over 50, exploring the unique challenges of betrayal later in life, including relationship identity, retirement, and rediscovering purpose.
Best for: Partners over 50 navigating betrayal with life-stage-specific concerns.
Betrayed Men’s Group
A weekly coaching group for men healing from a partner’s betrayal. Expert-led, with connection to other men in the same situation.
Best for: Men who want to process their experience with other betrayed men.
Individual Coaching
Personalized one-on-one coaching for your specific situation, at any stage of the healing process.
Best for: Partners who want private, tailored guidance.
Triggered to Together
A 12-week somatic program that helps individuals and couples move through triggers and trauma responses together instead of apart, learning to understand and respond to your nervous system states.
Best for: Individuals and couples where triggers are derailing conversations, daily life, and relational healing.
Intentionally Brave for Women
A 12-week transformational program for women ready to do deep work physically, emotionally, and relationally. Also available self-paced.
Best for: Women ready to move beyond survival into reclamation.
The Erosion of Intuition in Betrayal Trauma
A self-paced, trauma-informed mini-course to help you reconnect with your intuition after betrayal.
Best for: Partners who feel disconnected from their own instincts and want to rebuild self-trust.
Intentionally Healing
A structured, self-paced mini-course for the early stages of healing from betrayal trauma.
Best for: Partners looking for a guided starting point they can move through at their own pace.
To The Core
A self-paced course that goes deeper into the patterns and long-term impact of betrayal trauma.
Best for: Partners further along who want to understand the deeper layers of what happened.
The Healing Room
A private online membership community for ongoing connection, encouragement, and resources.
Cost: $39/mo.
Best for: Partners who want continued support and community at an accessible price point.
Empowered at Sea
A 5-day women’s retreat aboard a luxury cruise combining coaching, connection, and dedicated time for healing.
Best for: Women ready for an immersive healing experience at sea with other betrayed partners.
Empowered on Land
A 4-day, all-inclusive women’s retreat set in the Costa Rica Cloud Forest Resort focused on reconnection and reclamation.
Best for: Women who want retreat-level healing in a land-based setting.
Have questions before enrolling?
people who get you
Led by coaches who specialize in betrayal trauma.
Every program at Helping Couples Heal is led by expert betrayal trauma coaches with deep experience in infidelity, sex and pornography addiction, attachment trauma, and the specific dynamics that follow betrayal. This isn’t traditional couples coaching. It’s focused support for complex issues led by a team that understands what you’re going through because this is all they do.
Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT, co-founded Helping Couples Heal to provide the specialized support that people healing from betrayal trauma deserve. She brings both lived experience and clinical expertise to every program.
Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT
Listen While You Decide
Most people who find Helping Couples Heal start with the podcast. These episodes are a good place to begin.
72. Rebuilding Self-Trust After Betrayal
In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Ilyse dive into the profound impact betrayal has on self-trust, exploring how infidelity and sex...
46. You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Trauma
In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Gemini Adams, Trauma Recovery Specialist, Educator, Author, and HCH Coach, about the...
41. Betrayed Partner Trauma Responses
In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the biology of partner trauma responses through the lens of attachment theory and safety.
You’ve tried long enough on your own.
You do not have to know what comes next. A consultation can help you figure out where to start.
“Marnie has been a literal angel to me in my life … I do not think I could have made it through this year without finding her.”