You betrayed your partner. And you want to find a way forward.
Programs for the partner who has betrayed, focused on building shame resilience and personal integrity, repairing trust, and developing the skills needed to heal yourself and rebuild your relationship.
A Message for Partners Who Betrayed
Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT
CEO and Co-Founder of Helping Couples Heal
THE PROBLEM
The guilt and shame after betrayal don’t go away. And nothing you’ve tried has made it better.
Maybe it was a one-time mistake. Maybe it’s a pattern you cannot stop. Maybe you’re hiding something that is destroying your relationship. Whatever brought you here, the result is the same: your partner is in tremendous pain, and you do not know how to help.
- You’ve tried therapy or recovery programs, but nothing has produced real change
- The shame is so heavy that you shut down when your partner needs you most
- You’re terrified of being vulnerable and fully honest because you don’t know what will happen
Shame is keeping you stuck.
Willpower and a desire to change alone will not fix this. But real change is possible with the right support.
what's possible
What changes when shame stops
running the show.
Shame slowly loosens its grip. You learn to be present with your partner. They start to see real change instead of promises. Over time, the work becomes about something deeper: learning how to stop acting out, living with integrity, and finding peace.
Every program at Helping Couples Heal is built to help you take genuine responsibility without being shamed into silence.
start here
The Shame to Connection Program
Shame keeps you silent, disconnected, and unable to show up when your partner needs you most.
The Shame to Connection Program is a 12-week journey based on Brené Brown’s work, specifically designed to change that. Available as a live group program or a self-paced course.
- Learn to understand your relationship with shame and build real resilience
- Develop the capacity for authenticity and genuine, vulnerable connection with your partner
- 12 modules designed around one truth: the relational skills required for healing only become possible once shame is no longer running the show
Shame to Connection for Men
Wednesdays
September 23 – December 16, 2026
4:00–5:30 pm PST
$1,585 per person
Shame to Connection for Women
Fall waiting list available
$1,495 per person
“I grew more in these past few months than I did at any point in my life. It was an incredibly positive experience for me, and I look forward to continuing my journey with Helping Couples Heal.”
–Past Shame to Connection for Men Participant
More Ways to Heal
The Shame to Connection Program is the strongest starting point for most people. The following programs support different stages of the journey.
Men’s Intimacy & Integrity Group
A weekly coaching group for men who have betrayed their partner. Build relational skills, including empathy, humility, and integrity, alongside other men doing the same work.
Best for: Men who have betrayed and want ongoing support, accountability, and guidance.
Women Who Betrayed Group
A weekly coaching group for women who have betrayed their partners and/or are dealing with sex or porn addiction in a non-judgmental space.
Best for: Women who have betrayed their partner and need a space where they will not be judged or shamed.
Individual Coaching
Personalized one-on-one coaching for your specific situation, with a betrayal trauma specialist who understands what you’re going through.
Best for: Betraying partners at any stage who want private, individualized support.
Triggered to Together
A 12-week somatic program that helps individuals and couples move through triggers and trauma responses together instead of apart, learning to understand and respond to your nervous system states.
Best for: Individuals and couples where triggers are derailing conversations, daily life, and relational healing.
Intentionally Brave for Men
A 12-week group experience for men ready to do deep work physically, emotionally, and relationally. Covers self-integrity, shame resilience, and accountability through live weekly coaching calls and online modules.
Best for: Men who are ready to stop pretending and start living with integrity.
To The Core
A self-paced course that goes deeper into the patterns and long-term impact of betrayal trauma.
Best for: Partners further along who want to understand the deeper layers of what happened.
Journey to Integrity: Transformational Men’s Retreat
A 3-day immersive retreat for men actively engaged in recovery and committed to living with greater honesty, accountability, and integrity. Coaching sessions, guided experiential exercises, and small-group connection in Montauk, New York.
Best for: Men who are further along in their work and ready to deepen their commitment to integrity in an immersive, in-person setting.
Have questions before enrolling?
people who get you
Led by coaches who specialize in betrayal trauma.
Every program at Helping Couples Heal is led by expert betrayal trauma coaches with deep experience in infidelity, sex and pornography addiction, attachment trauma, and the specific dynamics that follow betrayal. This isn’t traditional couples coaching. It’s focused support for complex issues led by a team that understands what you’re going through because this is all they do.
Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT, co-founded Helping Couples Heal to provide the specialized support that people healing from betrayal trauma deserve. She brings both lived experience and clinical expertise to every program.
Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT
Listen While You Decide
Most people who find Helping Couples Heal start with the podcast. These episodes are a good place to begin.
99. The Other Side of Betrayal: The Ten Core Wounds of The One Who Betrayed
In December, I released a podcast called The Ten Core Wounds of Betrayal, which explored the deep and lasting wounds experienced by betrayed partners. In this follow-up...
69. After Betrayal: Moral and Ethical Decisions Beyond the Lies and Deception
In our last episode, Marnie talked about how to move forward after betrayal with a partner who refuses to provide safety, reassurance, consistency and active...
36. Shame
In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of shame, the greatest obstacle/barrier to healing relationships after betrayal....
You’re here because some part of you knows you can be different.
That’s where it starts. Not with having all the answers. Not with knowing exactly how to fix it. Just with the willingness to stop hiding and start showing up. We’ll help you with the rest.
“I feel pushed every week towards more honesty and conscious connection. I believe that in this, my relationship has really changed.” –Past Program Participant