After sexual betrayal, it can be difficult to rebuild trust and restore intimacy in a relationship. If you have done the betrayal, it can, at times, feel hopeless. As a woman, it’s even harder as there are societal constructs and perceptions that make the journey for relational recovery so much more challenging.

HCH offers a weekly group for women sex/porn addicts and women who have cheated on their partners. Here at HCH, we will never judge you or shame you as our goal is for you to heal from your pain and help you and your partner through this relational recovery process.

If you are a woman who has betrayed your partner, whether it be a physical affair or emotional infidelity, it can seem difficult to find support as you can sometimes feel like maybe you can’t fix things, even if both of you desperately want it to work.

If you have betrayed your partner and want to heal the relationship and feel stuck, this group is for you.

• I freeze when my partner is angry, and I don’t say anything at all.
• My partner tells me I don’t care about their pain, but that’s not true. I do care.  I just don’t know how to prove it.
• I become defensive when my partner is expressing hurt or anger, but I just can’t seem to stop myself.
• When I try to do or say the right thing, it doesn’t work.  My partner just feels worse.
• When my partner is upset, I get angry and then say what I think they want to hear.
• I am afraid to do anything because I’m scared I will make things worse.
• I feel like society has judged me and I feel so much shame.
• I have no idea how to respond to my partner when he is upset with me.
• I don’t know how to approach intimacy or communicate in a way that validates my partner’s pain.
• My partner is never going to trust me again. What’s the point?
• I feel like everyone will think my partner is weak for staying with me and I’m afraid that will cause my partner to leave. 
• When is it going to get better? I can’t do this dance much longer.
• My partner keeps asking the same questions over and over again and I don’t know how to answer and reassure them.
• I want to prove that I am sorry but I know my partner doesn’t believe me. 
• I feel like I’m walking on eggshells and at any moment it’s going to fall apart.
• I feel so much shame about how much trauma I have caused my partner and regularly shut down when I see them in pain.
• Maybe I just can’t be empathic and I’m just a lost cause.
• I wonder if my partner would be better off without me.
• I’m not doing anything wrong, but my partner keeps accusing me and checking everything. I don’t know what to do anymore.
• Why did I cheat? If I don’t even understand why I did it, how can I explain it to my partner?
• How do I reconcile the shame I feel about society’s view on women who cheat?

Jessie is a dedicated and compassionate betrayal trauma coach with a specialization in sex and intimacy and a passion for healing and helping others. She has a strong background in process addiction recovery, fueled by her own healing and transformation journey. 

As a candidate for a Master’s degree in Psychology and a certification in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT), Jessie’s coaching approach is rooted in trauma-informed care, emphasizing compassion, education, empathy, and curiosity.  As a level 1 Reiki practitioner and Registered Yoga Teacher, Jessie includes somatic-focused practices in her coaching to help clients identify and regulate stress and promote a calm nervous system. Somatic coaching can also help people navigate difficult emotions and work through painful memories.

Jessie has extensive experience working with individuals and couples, and she has facilitated relational recovery groups with a specialized focus on integrating healthy sexuality. Additionally, she has mentored dozens of women, providing personalized support and guidance in their recovery processes.

Jessie brings a unique gift of self-care and radical self-compassion expertise to Helping Couples Heal.  She is deeply committed to creating a safe and supportive space for her clients to achieve their goals with support, education and skills.  Jessie believes that a deep well of healing lies within each human heart.